What’s the difference between someone who achieves their goals and someone who just dreams about them? The starting point is always their level of desire, and how badly they want it. Try to remember a time when you heard how someone defied all the odds and achieved something that seemed impossible. You might have been stunned by their sheer determination to achieve their goal. What gave them their determination? They wanted it badly enough. Their desire led to a choice which set their desire into motion. They learned to make only those choices that supported their goals. And if they can do it, you can, too. Achieving your goals doesn’t have anything to do with where you’ve been; you can always get to where you want to be—if you want it badly enough.
Try this exercise. Think about something you really want. Maybe you want better clients, more clients, more referrals, a different home, more money or to be more fit. Whatever it is, make sure it’s something you really want. Close your eyes for a moment and imagine how you would feel already having achieved it. Feels great, doesn’t it? You probably had feelings of excitement and got butterflies in your stomach. That’s good!
Now compare how you felt during that exercise with how you feel about your current reality. Do you feel differently about them? Chances are, you do. You shouldn’t necessarily have “bad” feelings about your current reality, but my point is to distinguish the discrepancy in the “great” feeling between what you really want and what you currently have. You have to want your dream life badly enough to make a choice. That choice is to live a life that makes you feel great.
Most people stay in their current reality because they don’t want to deal with the sacrifice and discomfort of change. For them, it seems it’s just not worth it. I don’t see it that way. Choosing to live your dream life comes down to a single choice; sacrifice and discomfort don’t even enter the picture. From the moment you decide you want your dream life more than you want your current reality, it merely becomes a choice. Plain and simple.
Say, for instance, you want to lose weight. It’s a stressful day at the office and you’re craving Oreos. Under normal circumstances, you would just reach into your desk drawer, grab the package and start eating. However, today is different because you made the choice that you want to lose weight more than you want to remain at your current weight. And as you look at that package of Oreos, you ask yourself, “Will eating these cookies help me reach my goal?” The answer is obviously no, and without a second thought, you choose not to eat any cookies. That’s what wanting something badly enough means—you make only those choices that support your goal.
That is a pretty clear example of a supportive choice, but there are many other choices we make throughout the day that can sabotage our goals. And most of us aren’t even aware that our moment to moment choices can affect our ability to stay on a clear path to achieving our goals. That’s where coaching comes in.
In order to get from where you are to where you want to be, it takes a comprehensive evaluation to find out what you have been doing that has gotten you to your current reality. And if you are not where you want to be, then you haven’t always made the right choices or taken the right actions. Most of us don’t know how to make the right choices to support our goals because we never learned how. Was “Effective Goal Setting” offered at your school? Probably not.
If you’re ready to choose your goals and dreams and tap into your true potential, let’s get to work! Below are some easy steps to help you get started:
1. Make a choice. Do you want to achieve your dream life, or continue living your current reality? Remember, it is merely the choice that separates you from your goals.
2. Choose habits and actions that support your goals, whatever it is you want.
3. Involve your family, friends, clients, associates and peers. Let them know your goals and ask them to support you.
4. Hire an accountability coach, if you don’t already have one. Professional athletes and celebrities have coaches, why not you? Many people experience less frustration and faster results through coaching. Achieving your dreams becomes so much easier when you have a coach guiding you along the path to greater success.
So there is only one question to ask: How badly do you want to achieve your goals and dreams?
The only thing that separates you from your future and your current reality is choice. Do you choose the life you currently have, or do you choose the life you want to have? The choice is yours. Your dreams are real and your goals are possible. Commit to them and they will become a reality.
Start this moment by deciding what it is you really want. Write it on a piece of paper (remember to include exact dates) and know it is possible, if you really want it. Begin making only those choices that support your goals and take action! Nothing will come of nothing. You must take action to get from where you are to where you want to be.